Archive for November, 2007

Lobster Gobble

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Lobster Gobble- (an attempt to write about light.) ~ Dedicated to my loved ones, writers, old friends, new friends, family and life.

If Bill Tankovitch was a lobster, and if he was still alive and didn’t have his claws restricted by rubber bands with his beady eyes covered by moist paper towels sequestered to the bath tub fated to die a slow death or at best, blindly await a boiled ending, his name would be Bill Clawsomebitch.

Seriously.

Some Thanksgivings are not traditional like the kind of years a steady stream of dirt dusts our eyes only to remind us that life is muddy, messy and blurry. But tradition is as overrated as dirt so, I dedicate this holiday to the Lobster Gobble aka happiness. Bill Clawsomebitch would wish it so; he would wish for old friends to reunite, laughter in between sacred moments of quiet sighs and long looks filled with the knowing that everything is going to be okay, everything is okay.

We kindly hold this space moving in a quiet pace towards our dreams.

We have experienced death. We have experienced a laugh so hard it borders on tears or an old man’s cough. We have written; we have struggled to, from and on the page; but we got some words down and that is Lobster Gobble worthy. We have lost more than blood this past year and perhaps a bit of spirit along the way but we proved a smile is not so hard to achieve in the best of times and discovered it’s even sweeter in the worst of times. We have found new jobs, new homes, new spaces, people and places to explore; along the way we have unpeeled and unraveled the being of ourselves. We have loved, fought to love, lost love, sought love and found every which way to forget about love…but love is what we come back to. Love is all there is.

Love is a tub filled with lobsters. Love is in the eyes of old friends we wished we saw more often. Love is the space shared with family we are lucky enough to enjoy. Love is the person we have never met but admits to a crush nonetheless. Love is that brave. Love is a place to call home and do laundry. Love is a delicious bite to share or a sip to enlighten. Love is my niece’s way of saying, “deelishious.” (Thank you.) Love is the quiet nap shared in front of the Discovery Channel with a doggie named Scout to snuggle with. Love is a burger & whiskey & necking with an old friend. Love is laughing towards a fight over a board game. Love believes we only have this moment.

Love is me crying at the LAX airport because I am so very thankful for all of you, for Lobster Gobble, for Bill Clawsomebitch, for a new job, for my old home made new again and friendships that continue to blossom even with newness, distance and time.

In the spirit of Lobster Gobble and Bill Clawsomebitch, I will admit, life has been unbelievably wild (and haunting this past year) but I can say, without a doubt, I am happy. I feel blessed.

Thank you: papa, for believing in me. Thank you: friends, for not letting me go when I hid away for too long. Thank you: for talking to me again after all the pain we shared. Thank you: for laughing with me. Thank you: for everything being okay. Love believes we only have this moment.

Part of Me

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I am fighting to put myself back together again. I made mistakes. I look in the mirror and feel shame. If you had any part of me, please forgive me for I am not well. I called you names. I hated myself in every shade but, morning comes in light, and somehow, I keep moving on. If there is anything to say or do, I will do it for you, for me. I loved where there was only emptiness; I screamed into the abyss for sanctuary and found myself even more isolated and alone. I died. I am my brother, my father, my sister, my mother and now, it is morning and I must invite in the truth. If there is any other way, I wish I knew. I am a child.

Morning brings in the light. If there is any other way, I wish I knew. My surrender is this: These words. My love. My death. My hope. My mess.

I love you, my morning light; thank you for bringing me back home.

Porch Sitting

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My drive to work is paved by vineyards, long sweeping farmland sectioned by rows of grapes, mostly made up of Cabernet, Merlot and Chardonnay blocks. My eyes are puffy from too many tears shed last night but this view always offers comfort. I wonder if the people who live at these wineries have porches. The grapes seem as good a view as any from the highway so it must be a good view from a porch. One of my best friends died a few years ago of heart failure but, in my mind, he is still alive on a porch. He is still on that porch today, smoking Kool cigarettes. And I am still stealing smokes from him and I am twelve and my girlfriend Julie and I go to puff-puff at the public stairs; we always wish he would actually smoke a cool kind of cig like Camels or Parliaments, anything but menthol Kools.

His name is Ted and he has a long beard and funny, wire rimmed glasses and is my mother’s boyfriend and our friend or so he asks my brother and I to refer to him as. I like him and he is sort of odd and doesn’t think like most people. The best of times are found on a grey porch in Southeast Portland in two lawn chairs with a small table holding the ashtray in between us. We watch life pass us by and sip strong coffee and giggle at people marveling at the oversized monkey-puzzle tree in front of our house. It’s not a vineyard but it’s just as magical.

I pull into the long driveway up to the winery, Crazy Grapes. Continue reading ‘Porch Sitting’